Thursday, January 31, 2008

Ultrasound Day

What a fucking morning this has been.

It is my first day back after being out sick from work the past two days. Well as you all know Thursday is my weekly ultrasound. So I plan to go to the ultrasound,  have a look at the baby and then head back to work.

We start our appointment and everything is going good but the baby was extremely active more so than normal. Then the ultrasound chick checks the babies heart-rate and it is in the low 200's!  Well I immediately saw the concern on her face and just that time I hear Tom say, "That is kind of high isn't it?" Apparently I am blind because no where on the screen could I see the heart rate number. I asked what it was and the lady told me it was 198! I can feel the tears welling in my eyes but I tried to keep under control. The lady continues with the rest of the ultrasound and everything looks good...except the heart rate. So she says, "We might need to send you over to the hospital, I am going to go and look for the doctor and if he isn't in yet I will page him." Well all of this is starting to sound extremely urgent to me and as soon as the door closes I started to cry. I compose myself before she returns. She get back and tries to put a fetal monitor around my belly but the baby would not sit still long enough to get a good reading so I ended up being sent over to the office that is at the hospital. She didn't want to send me to triage for fear they would take too long. So Tom drives us  over there and I get all strapped in to the fetal monitor and we sit and watch. This child was going from 125 to 180 but eventually calmed down enough that we were allowed to leave.

The doctors didn't offer any reason for this mysterious heart rate craziness. It was all very upsetting. But we are both okay and she is doing well (as long as she doesn't have another baby freak out moment).

 Oooh, I almost forgot, she weighs 5lbs 2oz! YAY!

(No pictures today since we had the baby scare)

Wednesday, January 30, 2008

Life Is Fantastic

I think I have a welcome sign for drama. It is always there like a gloomy sky, you wait for the other shoe to drop and it always does. I guess life is interesting that way, but I don't like drama. I feel you should treat people the way you would like to be treated. So when the drama comes, I ignore it. It's hard to do at times but if you give into it I think it is just feeding the drama creator, I could be wrong but that is how it feels.

I don't let the bullshit that other people stir up hurt my feeling anymore. The playing field has gotten more dangerous but I'm not going to fall into it. I won't feel like a victim.

With that being said I need to get something off my chest. My SIL is a manipulative psycho path that is constantly creating drama in my family. I am getting to the point where I don't want to be around her, I don't want to hear her voice, I don't even want to hear any of the recent problems she is creating. I hate to sound cliche but she is dead to me. For five years now we have put up with her drama. I have many tales about this girl that would shock and disturb you. Her latest events revolve around the fact that I am moving into a new house and she isn't. My parents technically bought the house for me and then when we sell our house we are buying it from my parents. Well this has set her ass on fire even though it is none of her concern. She is always getting money from my parents and I NEVER ask for money from them. That is why they didn't mind putting themselves out there and getting the house for us now. If we would have waited we would have lost it. So she had a fit about that and freaked out and called my parents up cussing and screaming, which is the way she handles things. My brother and her asked for money to send my oldest niece to a private school next year and my parents told them no. Well my SIL of course freaked out! She called my mom and was screaming at her about how she supposedly loves her granddaughter but is denying her a proper education. My SIL seems to forget that my dad just paid for my nieces private school tuition for the current school year and he paid for cheer-leading for my niece and my mom has been paying there 11 credit cards since August. I think that they don't know I know all of this, but my mom and dad tell me everything.

They have been spoon fed for quite some time and although they are older than me you would never know it. They have the financial maturity of 12 year olds.  She is jealous of me and always talking about me and I always find out. Her latest spread of venom. My niece comes to me:

Mak: My mommy is mad at you

Me: I'm sure she is (I already knew about the fight with my mom over my house)

Mak: She says that you need to learn to take care of yourself and Mammie needs to take care of mommy and daddy

Me: Oh...

Mak: She also says your fat

Me: I really don't care what your mother says about me Makayla

Mak: *Gasps* We are family Heather, that is not nice to say about family

Me: Do you think it is nice for Mommy to call me names?

Mak: Don't talk about my mother

Me: I'm not, but I don't want to hear reports about what she says about me every weekend. It is not nice to repeat gossip and that is what you are doing. (I am assuming she is overhearing what her mother says to other adults like my brother or her friends)

Mak: My mommy told me to tell you this

(At this point I am ready to cry, I am so shocked that my niece is telling me all of this!)

Mak: She says you aren't going to be able to buy toys for your baby.

This conversation when on for a good five minutes. I believe it ended my my niece kicking me in the leg and telling me not to say mean things about her mother. I never did say anything bad about her mom I just kept telling her I didn't want to hear this. But, can you fucking believe that her mother is telling her to be mean to me?!?! I am still in shock over this. I am sure her mom expected me to hear all of this and then the fireworks would begin. I am not calling her or going to her house to talk to her. She is a narcissist so I have decided it best not to acknowledge the ignorant shit she does.

Oh and her mother stalks my blog, which is why I never get to let this off my chest. But I think I just might start writing about the stories from the past, they are pretty humorous.

Tuesday, January 29, 2008

Colds Suck

The plague has it's grip on me again! I can not believe that I have had two colds in the span of four months. Before my last cold I hadn't been sick in probably two years. This blows. I stayed home from work today which was a blessing because I have been REALLY sick today! And to top things off childbirth class is tonight. I was considering not going until I remembered the hospital tour is tonight and really how can I miss that. I have been looking forward to the tour since day one. Wish me luck as I try to pull it together.

Monday, January 28, 2008

New Name, Same Great Taste!

HA!

I changed the name today from "When Life Hand You Lemons..." to "Life After Lemons..." I should have done it a year ago when I changed my attitude from depressed and miserable, to happy and content. Sometimes I'm a little slow with these things.  ;-)

I originally named my blog "When Life Hands You Lemons" because that is how my life was is, just one big lemon after the other. That feeling of never catching a break and you almost wonder, "God, are you there?" But now I realize I partially created my own sadness in a way, you can be overcome with the bad things that happen in life or you can overcome then. So I changed my attitude and here I am. To be quite honest, life just feels better this way.

I have always been more of a pessimist in most respects so I changed my view to be more optimistic and life really is better this way. It's strange, I know but life is good. So here it is, my blog, "Life After Lemons...". Let's hope it stays this way!

Thursday, January 24, 2008

Bio Physical #3

Had another today, baby is doing excellent. Her head is still down and her butt is on my left side and she normally kicks my right side.

What you are about to witness is by far the scariest ultrasound picture ever. She looks like she is screaming she has her eyes and mouth wide open. Kind of reminds me of a ghost or something.

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I almost think she knew what was going on because in all of my other pictures from today she is peacefully relaxing with her hands drawn to her face. Then the ultrasound tech feverishly shakes the wand over my belly while saying "come on baby, show us your face!" Well ask and you will receive.

Of course after my mother looked at the picture she laughed for 15 minutes, we have a strange sense of humor in this family.

Childbirth Class (Day 3)

I almost forgot with everything aggravating me yesterday...

We had another class on Tuesday night, I must say, TMI! I do not need to know every possible thing about birth. Tom and I have agreed that it kind of makes you worry more about the "what ifs."  This week we discussed C-Sections and Epidurals. I do not want either.

The epidural just gives me the heebe jeebes, they passed around what goes into your back and then hangs out taped to you, yuck. I didn't want one before and now I really don't want it. I could possibly change my mind when I am laying on the bed in horrendous pain but, for now I don't really want to have an epidural.

The c-section, does anyone out there want to have one? I surely do not! Everyone I know that has has a c-section has a small stomach pouch that never goes away, I don't need any help making my stomach look bigger. On the serious side, that scares the hell out of me. I have only ever had laparoscopic surgery and that was on my ovaries -painful- I can not imagine having my stomach cut open. It is very scary so I hope we don't have any complications that call for a c-section.

Let me ask all of you:

Have you had an epidural? Do you recommend it?

Have you had a c-section? How did it go?

Wednesday, January 23, 2008

I Guess I'm A Bitch?

I am really really really sick of people. I just want to announce to everyone, "I don't give a flying fuck what you think about me!"

Today, first thing in the morning around 7:00, my friend Phyllis comes up to me to chat. I am naming my baby the same exact name of her grandchild.

She proceeds to tell me how this family member of hers just had a baby and named her child the exact same name.

I said: "Oh that's weird." (Which is weird because they are the same family!)

She said "Yes, I just don't know why that name is so popular all of a sudden."

Me: "I don't know what to tell you Phyllis, I had that name picked out for the past five years." (said in my curt back-off me voice)

She says: "Skip (her husband) just figures that everyone heard our grand-baby's name and is now copying it."

(Fuck you very much)

Me: "I don't know what to tell you Phyllis."

Perhaps what she wanted me to say is that I will relinquish my claim on this name so that her granddaughter will be the only one in the world. I have news for her, not going to happen. Her son and daughter in law didn't even want a child, then Phyllis made a big deal about how the name was not going to be told until the child was born. Then about a year and a half ago she comes in and tells me the name and I wanted to vomit. All this time I was trying to get pregnant and bam, this chick is pregnant and used the exact same name I wanted! What are the odds of that! I was so upset the day that I found out that babies name that I called up Tom and Laura crying! I was a f'ing mess!

I considered changing my name choice at the time she told me her granddaughter had the same name, but Tom said: "No, that's the name we chose and we are keeping it." And he is absolutely right, she is a 65 year old woman, I am 23, it's not like we will be working together forever. With any luck she'll retire and I won't have to hear about this anymore! I mean really, is it that big of a deal that we talk about this what seems like once a week. I am really sick of it and I can tell she gets angry whenever it is mentioned in conversation but I honestly don't care, can we now move on to more important things? I feel like I am in high school.

The Plague, Again

Someone has given me there filthy disgusting cold germs, yet again. When I find out who is responsible for this they will die a slow and painful death, seriously.

It has not yet been 24 hours of suffering and already I am feeling it! My neck, ears, throat and head hurt. Lets not forget that my sinuses are also dripping and making me feel nauseous, it is really quite lovely.

All in time for Tom's birthday this weekend, which of course we have plans for Sunday night...I hate this shit!

Update 10:00am: Just heard we are being told what our raises will be today....this is just icing on the cake.

Friday, January 18, 2008

What A Nice Way to End the Week!

I was totally taken by surprise today at work. I had just gotten out of my one-on-one with my new awesome boss and we had a "team meeting" scheduled to go to. So I see everyone kind of standing around (which is nothing out of the ordinary) and everyone was acting retarded when I asked if we were having the meeting in the conference room at the end of the hallway. Finally we were ready for the meeting (read: all of my co-workers were ready) and as soon as I open the door...."Surprise!!!!" They had almost everyone crammed in there and the room was decorated, it was adorable!

I was totally and completely surprised and not expecting it so soon. The last person that had a baby shower had her baby before her shower so I thought we might keep that tradition alive. But alas my best work friend Mary said they were afraid I might go out on leave soon so they wanted to make sure to throw me a shower...before the baby was born. I thought that was the sweetest thing! They even let me leave an hour and a half before my normal quitting time of 3:30.

Everyone in my department has strapped on there doctor's coats and have given me the following diagnosis: At the end of this month the doctor will put me on leave and I am going to have this baby at the end of February. It is kind of freaking me out because all of the women folk seem to be in agreement with this. I was looking forward to a March baby but I guess she'll come when the good Lord decides, despite what the women in the department may say!  :roll:

In other news, I picked out flooring for the whole house (with the exception of the living room) and we are getting a very pretty Gunstock Oak laminate for the low price of 99 cents a square foot! YAY! I have also bought the paint and the house will be Antique White with an occasional fun color thrown in here and there. On tomorrow's agenda I will be heading out to buy the tile for the bathrooms. I have restored confidence that this house will be completed by the end of February at the latest. Lets cross our fingers just to be on the safe side.  :lol:

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I'll save myself the embarrassment of any pictures of me...Friday is my "hobo Heather" day so I wasn't really looking my best!

Thursday, January 17, 2008

Bio-Physical #2

The baby did very well today and everything is looking good! She is measuring a week ahead of schedule!

In this pic you can see her little face:

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In this pic you can see her two feet are together and the foot closest to you she is holding with her hand around her ankle:

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Wednesday, January 16, 2008

Childbirth Class (Day 2)

I am surprised how informative these classes are. A lot of people say "Oh, you don't need to go" or "They are so boring, you shouldn't go."  I don't think that is the case at all. It is helping me to be better prepared mentally on what to expect and all the possible things that could happen. Although the birthing videos are quite disgusting, I was prepared enough for that, I didn't need to see another woman's hoohaa with a baby coming out  (and all the fluid that comes with it!) it was really rather gross. They even showed the placenta, it was definitely a throw-up in your mouth moment.

Some of the things they show you just look rather medieval and since I have never given birth before I hadn't realized that there are monitors that attach to the baby while the baby is inside of you and then the wire hangs out your hoo-haa, there is also another monitor that measures contractions and goes in to said hoo-haa with another wire hanging out. That is not cool. Then they went over two methods of induction. The one being pitocin the other was medieval. The second method is a catheter that goes into your cervix and then is blown up with a little bit of air so that the tube has a bubble. Then the rubber hose is (once again) left hanging out of your hoo-haa. It is supposed to induce your labor and get you to dilate. You are supposed to go to sleep with this hose hanging out of you and then in the morning it just "falls out" once you start to dilate. If it doesn't fall out then that method just isn't going to work for you and you had that tube in there all night for nothing. The instructor had nerve enough to tell us that it doesn't hurt, I refuse to believe that shit. My cervix has been screwed around with plenty by doctors and when they stick something in there it hurts like a bitch...she's not fooling me!

So that is just a glimmer of the possible things that could happen to you and your hoo-haa. There was much more traumatizing facts but I don't have the time to go over it all just now.

Monday, January 14, 2008

Feeling Better!?!

I am feeling a little better from the other day when I was in full fledged diabetes panic mode. The Diabetes Center made some changes today when I faxed my (blood sugar) numbers in and so far so good!

I am just feeling really, really stressed! I hate, hate, hate having that 'nothing you can do will change anything' feeling. Perhaps I am a huge slight control freak?

Like the house is coming along fairly well but there is really nothing I can do to help. My diabetes is a complete act of nature, I was way more physically active and ate next to no sweets and it didn't phase my diabetes this weekend so that is super frustrating.

But, the diabetes is back under control as we speak so I hope it stays that way! The house is coming along as fast as it can. My husband and dad fixed the ceiling this weekend and I think it just needs a little more spackle and sanding before they can paint it. The bathroom is getting there. Dad did the plumbing for the bathtub and then we are going to put down tile, paint and install the new toilet and vanity and that will be done. I think the bedrooms just need painted and flooring installed...I think. This house is just like what you would see on TLC's Flip That House. I kid you not, you start one thing and it opens another can of worms!

So if anyone wants to come over and lend a hand you are more than welcome! We'll even buy the pizza!

Friday, January 11, 2008

I Don't Know What To Do?

My diabetes has taken a turn for the worse this week...

My blood sugar numbers just keep getting higher and higher. I went from taking insulin at bedtime only to now I am taking bedtime insulin, breakfast insulin and dinner insulin. All of this happened this week. They say the "more pregnant" you are the worse your insulin control is but I think this is getting out of hand!

Tom told me not to worry about it but it is hard not to. I keep thinking about how my friend Trina developed gestational diabetes during her pregnancy and just recently gave birth a month too soon to a baby girl. Her blood was doing the exact same thing prior to giving birth so it makes me very nervous. I don't want to go into labor too soon because of this stupid diabetes.

I guess I just have to wait it out and see what happens...

Tuesday, January 8, 2008

Eight out of Eight

Today marked the first day for the baby's bio-physicals. I had no clue what the bio-physical was all about so when we went today they gave us the breakdown.

They are basically just checking fetal movement and fluid levels. You get two points for proper fluid levels, two points if the baby kicks twice, two points if the baby punches twice and two points if the baby moves twice (I forget the exact word they used but she basically needed to wiggle two times). They also make sure she is breathing properly and check her heart-rate (150bmp today). Luckily today she was very active in the morning so once they told me what needed to happen I wasn't concerned. She has to perform all of these things with in a half hour and she completed all of her movements in about ten minutes.

The coolest thing about all of this is when you feel the baby moving you actually can see it on the screen. I enjoyed that the most! Usually I don't see the baby moving on the screen because they are constantly moving the wand thing around so I never can tell if they are moving or if she is.

So everything turned out okay and we scored eight out of eight. I am stoked I get to do this every week!

Saturday, January 5, 2008

Hm...

The world is feeling very hectic and crazy right now! The baby is coming soon, apparently 71 days soon according to the right side of the screen. That seems really, really quick!

I guess this is hitting me all at once because we just bought a house on Thursday and we need to fix it up and the baby is coming in 71 days! Oh my, I am clearly smoking crack! I would probably feel a tad better about all of this if I could actually do some of the cleaning/fixing on the house. But my whole family has banned me from work so it is a three man crew consisting of my husband, father and mother doing all the work. I am seriously feeling guilt ridden. Grandma even gave me the third degree that I shouldn't even be going over to the house. Yes that was her exact words.

Besides the house...we also have our childbirth classes once a week starting next week and they will continue until the first week of February. We also have bio-physicals on the baby once a week for the next four weeks. Not to mention all the other doctor appointments that I have to go to! Oh the chaos, what will me and my home-body husband do!

Speaking of the baby...she is doing well! On Wednesday they told me she weighs 3lbs 1oz and that she is looking good and gaining weight properly. She also had her fetal echo cardiogram that day and her heart looks wonderful. Praise the Lord for that!

So needless to say I am looking quite forward to a nice, relaxing, laugh-filled night with my two best friends! Woo-Hoo, melting pot here we come!